Happy Holidays and an Amazing Blessed 2014

Instead of New Years’ Resolutions, I recommend Soul Resolutions this Year!

How many times have you committed to new year’s resolutions only to find that the new year has barely begun and by January 5^th, the 10^th or maybe, if you’re lucky by February 1^st, you have broken all of your promises to yourself. Looking ahead at every new year like a blank canvas, where all things are still possible and where you safely project all your hopes of a better future with more success, better discipline and all annoying issues resolved has become your yearly beacon of hope. 

Having failed, yet again, you sink back into your behavioral slump, maybe interrupted by a quick stunt in mid-June (just in time to get in shape for bikini season), just to wait again for the New Year to roll around with the offer of its immaculately clean canvas.

 If this strategy is not working for you, and really, as an old soul there is no shame in admitting that (you have been at it for a few thousand years), I recommend you change your approach.

A few years ago, I was caught in the vicious cycle of New Year’s resolutions myself.

Not too impressed by my progress, to say the least, I boycotted New Year’s resolutions all together, since they really always ended up making me feel horrible about myself. In the beginning, I just skipped them without replacement.

It was a relief, since I got to skip the whole self-loathing portion of the cycle.

After a while, I noticed the desire for self-improvement in certain areas nudge me first quietly than more noisily until I paid attention.

So I sat myself down to strategize a plan that would work in the long run.

One thing I knew for certain was that I did not intend to drag certain soul/karmic patterns with me for the next ten lifetimes.

There was the heavy burden of chronic soul guilt and the trauma from 1372 and the unresolved heartache with my twin flame and my rejection of earthly matters to name a few.

So I came up with some soul resolutions. I was going to take whatever steps necessary for the rest of this life to resolve as many karmic issues as possible and to put down the burdens and heal the trauma.

Good news, I can do the work throughout the year, as I become aware of it and if I miss a few weeks of intense application it doesn’t matter since I am working towards a larger goal.

Another benefit I found is that the soul resolutions don’t change from year to year like my ego/personality New Year's Resolutions did.

When I fall of the wagon, it is easy to get back on reminding myself that I am really already tired of these circumstances and that I do not wish to drag them with me into any future lifetimes!

If nothing else, I recommend trying a new approach. What do you have to lose?

Develop your Intuition… Continued!

I promised to continue the “Intuition Series”. I am currently working on that one.

In the meantime, here is one important step to add. Stay tuned for more to come.

It is important to have reliable resources to help us decode symbols that show up in our dreams, meditations and visions.

The Universe will communicate with you in a language that you can learn to understand. Don’t discard a vision just because you aren’t quite sure of its significance yet. Remember the saying, one picture is worth a thousand words. Be curious and play detective. The more you practice the more fluid you will become, until it becomes second nature to know what your intuition is telling you.

When it comes to symbols, we need to distinguish between personal symbolism and universal symbolism.

A personal symbol will only make sense to you.

For example, if you see a white cat in a dream or vision and you don’t recognize the cat, you would research the meaning of the color white and the meaning of cat.

If the cat turns out to be Fluffy and is your favorite companion in the world, the meaning changes dramatically. You have to ask yourself in the context of your vision, who is Fluffy? What are Fluffy’s characteristics? Is the information about Fluffy or is Fluffy being used as a symbol?

The same is true, if you’re shown objects, locations, situations that have a unique meaning to you.

Play with the pieces of the puzzle until they fit and you pick-up a resonance of truth and coherent meaning out of it.

Be willing to be patient and have fun with it.

One good website I recommend for decoding symbols is:

www.whats-your-sign.com

I suggest adding a few books that feel right to you, so you can compare.

More to follow on this topic soon.

Funny Story!

Hi Everyone!

Happy belated Thanksgiving and I apologize for yet another delay in writing more new posts.

I have been suffering from writer's block and I have been stuck in "THE VOID"

(not my favorite place to be...).

Finally, I am in the flow again and I hope to have some original posts ready by next week.

In the meantime, I want to share this email with you, written by a very talented client who is a stand-up comedian named Adam Miller.

Adam always finds creative ways to motivate me to keep writing when there have been no new postings in a while...

So here it goes, it was titled "Kind of funny Story"-email:

(And thanks Adam, it worked :-)!)

                                                    

As we all know, I have had and do have plenty of weaknesses I have needed to work on, but, I also of course have strengths.  One of the things I have always been good at is adding insight and perspective, either one on one or in group conversations.  Even when I was a kid I just knew what the answer was even though I didn't always know how or how I understood it...

Anyway, I was at Cs workshop this past weekend and the group was talking about sympathy vs. empathy and whether or not there are truly victims in our reality.  After they went around a little bit, missing the bullseye, and contaminating the room with confusion:), C asked me if I had anything to add.  So I did.  And then, of course, as always, (bats eyelashes) there was a line of people waiting to talk to me after :)...

This is the jist of what happened as best as I can remember it:

First guy approaches with slight trepidation.

First guy: you know, I just wanted to say in regard to your comments…(takes a knee)

Me: (graciously) that’s ok sir, you don’t have to kneel…

First guy: (rising, quivering just a little) I really appreciated what you had to say...I really liked your observations...It touched me and made me think…(eyes tearing up) you’re an unprecedented genius and I wish I was you(or something like that)…

Me:  (buffing my nails)  yes, yes, of course, I know, no problem, glad I could help clarify for the group...(blows on nails)… 

First guy tries to offer me his baby

Me: (graciously) sir please, that’s ok, I don’t want your first born child, keep it…(burps)  I ate earlier anyway…anyway, as I was saying,  yes, wisdom beyond my years, that’s the way humans normally put it, yes, ha ha, so true, funny story actually, the sages used to whisper that through the walls of my mom’s belly to get me to stop kicking… (brushes back hair with hand and pulls eyelash off and blows it)

First guy leaves glowing.  C approaches.

C: You know, I am really glad you spoke up.  You really have a gift for communication.  You really have a lot of insight…(eyes tearing up) I think you're the most brilliant and wonderful man who ever lived(or something like that)...you're like so super cool it's ridiculous. I only apologize we didn’t adorn the couch with rose petals before you sat down…please understand, I was busy preparing for…

Me: (graciously extending hand)  it’s ok, I’m practicing humility now( she kisses hand)…it’s good for me to go without them. 

Slight pause.

C:  (trying to comprehend such colossal spirituality) It must be hard not being able to tell all these people…

Me:  Tell them what?  The reason Father made them?

Catalina:  No, that you’re the actual real life, one and only, in the flesh messiah.

Me:  (buffing nails and looking in my pocket mirror)  Oh, ha, that!  Well you know, you learn to live with it.  Anyway, thank you so much, glad I could say something to help...anytime. 

C:  (nervous but summoning the courage) Do you think perhaps you might want to start teaching my class with me? 

Me:  Um...maybe. (starts returning a text message)  I guess I’d be open to it…let’s do lunch. But I can’t Tuesday through Sunday…those are my rest days. 

I cross the room, elegantly plucking my eyebrows.  Girl approaches.    

Girl:  I really liked what you had to say.  It sounds like you have really read a lot of Nicole's articles.

Silence. 

Me: (fumbling mirror, dropping it and kicking it across the floor…putting nails in mouth)  huh?...oh…you know Nicole?…well...um....I mean...you know...I mean....yeah...I mean...some...I mean...I read a lot of stuff...I mean, mostly I channel everything...I mean, mostly I already know everything...I mean...um…

Girl:  yeah, I could really tell.

Me: Mmm-hmm.   Yeah...mmm-hmm…that’s great…well...I…shit!...fine…you got me!  But just the stuff about all you whiny babies stopping seeing yourselves as victims!!!  But I had to get that from her you understand?   I don’t have any personal experience with that!  :)

The girl was O.  She was really cool.  We had a lot of fun.   I may have exaggerated the story just a tad.  

Adam

And the Karmic Wheel Goes Round and Round, Round and Round!

Picture a wheel! From the center you can see multiple spokes going out, the outer rim is perfectly round and the points along the outer rim are equidistant from the center hub.

Now, imagine that the center point represents your soul in its totality beyond the parts you have played in any lifetime and the points on the outer rim are all the lifetimes that you have lived on planet earth. The different lives are like costumes you put on in order to learn through different experiences. All these characters you have played served a purpose. If we zoom in we can see the time you played the monk and we can see the time when you took on the form of the corrupt businessman. We see the life when your physical beauty dazzled and we also see the time when nobody wanted to be around you because you were disfigured.

We observe you as a world class athlete as well as the time when you could barely put one foot in front of the other as you make your way to an unknown destination in an endless trail of war refugees.

All these lifetimes are equally important to the soul’s evolution. When we reach a state of enlightenment, we will be centered in the middle of the wheel and the importance of the costumes will fade and we will walk away from all the lessons lived as wiser, more compassionate souls.

Until we get to that place, most of us become over identified with the outside of the wheel because we favor certain parts over others.

Some of us love to play the spiritual parts including the monks, the yogis, the prophets, the healers, the preachers etc. We are less concerned with worldly possessions and favor spiritual power to worldly power. When we have to play parts that are very physical or where we all of a sudden have to deal with a lot of material abundance and worldly power, we will be severely uncomfortable and try to get back to a role where we feel more identified. During these times, our consciousness and ego are hanging on to the outside of the karmic wheel, which keeps going round and round. 

We subject ourselves to a lot of suffering because we are required to take part in all of the classrooms sooner or later.

An enlightened being is capable of playing any designated role in an enlightened manner. There is no character that is always “bad”, au contraire; all parts have an enlightened version available.

Other souls are more engrossed with worldly power and fame. These souls can get so hooked onto playing kings and queens, the richest person in the land or being famous inventors and artists that they develop soul addictions. Every time they are not in the desired position they will suffer tremendously and do anything to get their next fix. Souls that suffer from what I call a “Royal Complex” will want to turn everyone in their environment into personal servants or have them play a part in their entourage.

No matter where you fall on the spectrum, sooner or later we all need to learn to surrender and to return to the center of our karmic wheel (unless you are still enjoying the roller coaster, of course).

Determine for yourself which roles and parts on the earth game you value above all else. Then look at the ones that you feel are the most meaningless because these are important to integrate as well. We need to make peace with all aspects of ourselves in order to make our way back to the center of our karmic wheel.

Remember, there are no small or insignificant parts only in our perception.

Meditate on things you have learned in moments that seemed less important and embrace all experiences you have ever had.

Because the karmic wheel goes round and round and it is up to you if you are spinning on the outside rim or if you are resting well balanced in the center!

How to Detect and Manage Energetic Soul Pain!

When you look at a person, you are dealing with a complexly interconnected system where you will find a lot more data than meets the eye.

To simplify the discussion, let’s break it down into the physical body, the emotional body, the mental body and the energetic body.

All the bodies interact with each other. When one gets hurt the others will most likely be effected, yet depending on the nature of the injury and the pain, it is not always easy to determine what is happening and what tools are needed to remedy the situation.

When your physical body is sick or gets hurt you have tangible proof for the severity of pain you are in and it is likely that your fellow travelers will show a fair amount of compassion and will offer their support in order for you to heal.

If you break your legs and you are in a wheelchair, no one will expect you to run a marathon with them.

If you go through a divorce, a death in the family or the loss of your job and you are grieving and heartbroken, you know why you are in pain and suffering. You have something to share with the world that explains your emotional and mental state and it is possible to get the necessary help and support to facilitate healing. If you don’t quite act like yourself for a while you will most likely be given the space and the understanding to regain your balance.

If you were drugged or had an allergic reaction to a bee sting and you are mentally out of it for a while, you are not going to be expected to finish the report, show up for the final or pick-up the kids from school. Again, it will be very evident that you are not in a position to do so.

In our current human circumstances, pain of the soul or energetic body isn’t as evident or equally recognized on a collective, social level, yet the suffering can be similarly debilitating.

Before I go into further details, let’s talk a bit more about the energetic body.

Imagine that you’re watching a cartoon. All the energies are visible in color. If somebody’s energetic body is healthy there is a bright, multicolored orb around their physical body, at least a couple feet in all directions. I call that a healthy energetic immune system.

Now, imagine that the immune system is compromised and that it has cracks. Through these cracks slimy, toxic energy creeps in and the system is thrown out of balance.

Since the whole human runs on electricity and energy, it is just a matter of time until the other bodies will exhibit symptoms.

The physical body might react with a migraine headache, the emotional body could feel depressed and the mental body, not quite comprehending what is happening can fall into an obsessive mantra of self-judgment.

“What’s wrong with you? It’s such a beautiful day, you have a great job, a family that loves you and all you do is complain. You have no reason to feel depressed. You should feel grateful. Why aren’t you happy? You’re a horrible person…and on and on and on.”

Does any of this sound familiar?

I encounter this a lot in sessions. People don’t give themselves credit for their energetic and/or soul pain. Our society isn’t equipped to support people on that level and so we not only run into our own internal judges but are also confronted with the impatience and harsh judgments of our environment.

Depending on how chronic and severe the pain is, insult is continuously added to injury and many years can go by, where we don’t even look for a cure because we are so convinced that there’s nothing wrong in the first place. If unaddressed, the symptoms and suffering tends to get more intense as time goes by.

The first step to take in order to break this vicious cycle is to acknowledge that you are indeed hurt and that you will set out on a quest to figure out what it is and what it’ll take to get yourself well.

Here are some indicators that you are suffering from energetic/soul pain:

1. Your emotional symptoms are not making any sense.

2. You don’t feel comfortable in your own skin.

3. No matter how much you clean, your environment seems dirty.

4. You experience reoccurring deep-seated emotions that are way disproportionate to the circumstances at hand.

5. You feel pressure in your head at odd moments.

6. You have physical, phantom symptoms, yet all of your medical tests show that your physical body is completely healthy.

7. You are suffering from debilitating nightmares that are not connected to any real life drama

8. You have strong knee jerk reactions in your behavior and you feel really guilty for it because you are not able to show up as the person you know you can be.

These are just some of many indicators that your soul body primarily fuels the source of the disturbance.

If that is the case, my advice is the following:

1. Have compassion with self and others and know that indeed something is amiss and the source of the disturbance can be fixed and healed.

2. There are two main reasons the energetic body hurts:

a) There is an unresolved past life trauma.

b) The energetic body has to deal with an invasion of disharmonious energies.

3. Find modalities that assist you in energy clearing i.e. Tai Chi, certain forms of meditation, chanting, smudging, use the “Clearing Protocol” (other post in my blog), Kundalini Yoga to name a few or find yourself a skilled practitioner to assist you.

Determine what compromised your protection so that you can fix long-standing imbalances and strengthen your energetic immune system.

4. Consider exploring your karmic history via hypnosis, your own intuition or a skilled practitioner. Understanding what you are dealing with is half the battle towards healing it.

Even though energetic pain isn’t a mainstream term yet, we still have to deal with it.

As old souls, it is sometimes the only surface indicator that we have karmic homework to do.

It is time for you to show up for you and to be on your own team. 

Remember, at the end of the day everything about you makes sense. Part of the journey is to put the pieces back together like a highly sophisticated detective story.

Are You Waiting For Your Big Life To Live Life Big?

Truth is most of us have fantasies of what we want life to look like.

For some of us it comes in the form of picturing our dream home, a luxury car, a big professional platform, unlimited financial resources, a marriage to our soul mate, a trophy partner, an award winning bestseller or reaching a state of enlightenment.

Whatever your desired stage setting looks like my question to you is this:

How would you live your life differently if you had the perfect life?

I came up with this post observing some of my favorite clients as they are desperately waiting for their BIG life to happen. However, while they are waiting, they are on cruise control and are not living their lives to the fullest potential.

I N T E R E S T I N G! I said to myself. Here are these fabulous people with all this old soul wisdom not stepping up to the plate because they are throwing little hissy fits that the Universe is not outwardly manifesting their grandness.

Mmmm, I thought to myself scratching my head, I see a pattern here.

I wonder what the lesson is…

Maybe, just maybe, it is time to let go of the ego expectations and be BIG and live your life in its full capacity even though, seemingly nobody of importance is watching. Why? Because we all have to learn to participate, to apply ourselves from the heart without being concerned with how big the gains will be.

Mastering that lesson might lead you faster to your goal or you might find that you are so fulfilled that you really don’t care anymore.

Either way, I am rooting for you because I think you are truly fabulous and I hope that your seemingly small world will get to benefit from your greatness.

Put Down the Cross; Someone Else Needs the Wood!

Martyrdom is very popular with old souls. And really, who can blame them.

It is one of the most celebrated archetypes in history and one that rarely gets criticized because at the end of the day, who doesn’t like to have a self-sacrificial person around them willing to pick up the slack?

It is nice to be loved and wanted on this planet especially since the percentage of pain caused by isolation and rejection runs fairly high. So yes, let’s sign up for martyrdom. Add a few centuries of religious dogma that instructs us that it is better to give than to receive plus a bleeding heart complex where the internal need to help can only be satisfied if we assist to carry our fellow traveler’s pain and suffering. And voilá, you have a perfect concoction of being weighed down by the burden of so many crosses, that you have lost count.

Now, if this resonates for you, let me ask you this:

Aren’t you tired yet?

Have you started feeling resentful and underappreciated?

Do you feel heavy, sluggish and tired?

Is it hard to get out of bed in the morning?

Do you feel like you are trapped in a version of spiritual “Groundhog Day”?

Have you come to the conclusion that martyrdom isn’t as cool as it used to be?

Are you annoyed that the people around you have stopped evolving and keep coming to you with the same issues?

Have you finally reached the point where you feel that self deserves a vacation?

If you’ve answered yes to any or all of the above questions, it might be time to put down the cross(es) and leave the classroom of martyrdom behind. It was fun while it lasted but on your journey to enlightenment, there are other classrooms to enter.

Let’s aim for a more balanced life where you teach people how to fish instead of feeding them fish. You won’t turn into a self-centered, greedy person; you will just refuse to carry other’s burdens. The good news is two fold.

You will feel lighter plus you’ll have the time and energy to focus on your own homework and you will learn to lead by example.

You will force the people around you to learn their own lessons, which will allow them to be more independent.

So, are you ready?

If so, meditate and envision yourself surrendering all the burdens and crosses you have been carrying to Divine Source. Let them be transmuted by the Violet Transmuting Flame. Repeat until they are all gone. And of course, be free to improvise and add your own techniques.

Martyrdom can be addictive. Depending on your level of attachment you might have to work through a twelve step program and join MA (Martyrs Anonymous ;-)).

The biggest pitfalls I noticed in my own journey were:

a) I didn’t know what to do with the freed up energy and I had to redirect it first before I felt inclined to carry other people’s stuff again.

b) I felt guilty for feeling well while others were still suffering. In the meantime, I have gained the awareness that I can actually be of greater assistance when I am healthy and doing well.

You may or may not be ready to change this aspect of yourself. My advice:

Quit while you are ahead. Sooner or later one does become resentful for having to suffer for other soul’s karma and in the big picture that is not the way it is meant to be!

So, put down the cross and remember nothing is ever lost, so be sure the wood will be recycled and end up somewhere as a beautiful antique or a nice warming bonfire and you will be free to join in the dance of life once again.

The Thing Is by Ellen Bass

Hi Everyone!
I hope this finds you well. I am finally finding the time to get back to my blog. It's been a very interesting summer and I am sure some of the stories will make it into future postings ;-).
You can expect some original postings in the next few days.
We are headed for another Uranus/Pluto square. (If you are not familiar with it, I recommend reading up on it on one of the wonderful astrological websites).
It's time to let go of things and relationships that no longer work. Last year, during a prior Uranus/Pluto square, I went through a huge grieving process while life as I knew it was being stripped away.
A loving fellow traveler recommended this poem to me by Ellen Bass. It helped a lot.
If you are not familiar with her, check out her work!

The Thing Is by Ellen Bass

The Thing Is

to love life, to love it even
when you have no stomach for it
and everything you’ve held dear
crumbles like burnt paper in your hands,
your throat filled with the silt of it.
When grief sits with you, its tropical heat
thickening the air, heavy as water
more fit for gills than lungs;
when grief weights you like your own flesh
only more of it, an obesity of grief,
you think, How can a body withstand this?
Then you hold life like a face
between your palms, a plain face,
no charming smile, no violet eyes,
and you say, yes, I will take you
I will love you, again.

To Self-Improve or Self-Accept, That Is The Question!

Oh, the continuous burden of choice in this reality can drive one up the walls!

After all the hoopla in our very industrial-revolutionized, efficient, competitive, bottom-line driven society in regards to maximizing one’s potential, it is absolutely no wonder that the Self-help industry is an increasingly growing sector of our economy.  Self-improvement seems to reign supreme and win, hands down.

The other day, I stumbled across an article where the author, fed up with all the self-improvement gadgets and hype was urging his readers to stop self-improving and to work on self-accepting. Interesting, I thought as I read the piece, he certainly had me hooked until about half way through his article. That is when he started coming up with some concrete examples. 

Here are a couple of the ones, I remember:

1. If you have bad skin, stop spending money on beauty products and love yourself and accept yourself just the way you are.

2. If you are overweight and you struggle to diet, stop worrying about it and love all of you.

Here is where my brain feverishly started interjecting questions?

But what happens if the weight poses a health risk and you develop diabetes that could have been prevented? What if you don’t feel good in your own skin and you really want to get back to manifest your fullest healthiest potential? What if your skin is sending you a message that your liver is overworked and your body is desperately crying for help? What if you are suffering from heavy metal toxicity and ignoring the surface symptoms will make things much worse?

In my book, these are all situations where I choose to self-improve but the concept of self-acceptance still does ring a strong bell.

I walked away from reading the article, not being able to shake it off completely, even though I disagreed with the examples given.

One day, while I took a shower (always a place of great epiphanies for me), it dawned on me how the pieces could fit together.

Yes, in our society we strive at times for things that are unachievable for us this lifetime. So, let’s work on self-accepting the things we can’t change i.e. body height, family heritage, the past and choices made, karmic contracts, talents or the lack of etc. Let’s learn to make peace with our true natures and realize there is always somebody bigger, brighter or cooler around the next corner.

But by all means let’s keep self-improving in all the areas where we know that we are slacking and where we are called to self-improve, grow, learn, evolve and heal because the lessons don’t go away and symptoms do tend to get louder if we ignore them.

So let’s self-accept while we continue to self-improve, which will guarantee a smoother ride!

10 Signs that it’s Time for an Attitude Make-Over!

True enjoyment in life doesn’t grow out of external circumstances being perfect.

Because really, when does that ever happen?

 The perfect day: everyone you know is happy and for once they are behaving themselves, the weather is wonderful, your house is clean, all your annoying chores are done, you have plenty of money and you get to do with your day just what you always wanted without a care in the world. Oh, and of course, you look and feel fabulous and there isn’t the slightest hint of any unresolved karmic issues. Oh, I almost forgot, we have to add world peace and nobody is suffering, so that you don’t have to feel guilty for enjoying your perfect reality.

At times, we all project the power to make us happy onto our external reality.

Any efficient spiritual practice will assist you to find and practice your ability to stay centered, to be happy, to experience contentment and fulfillment on the inside, to cultivate the wisdom to learn and grow with all of life’s experiences and to become an excellent surfer in the ocean of life.

Remind yourself that your attitude has a great deal to do with the quality of life you will experience in your every day assistance. If you continuously give your power away to external circumstances you run into the danger of major disappointments as well as stagnation in your soul’s growth and being an annoying fellow traveler on the bus of life.

(“Are we there yet? I am hungry! Why is it so hot? I have to pee. Why is nobody providing me with my favorite sandwiches? Are we still not there yet? Who is responsible for my discomfort? Somebody will pay for this!”)

So here are 10 signs that you have been slacking on your spiritual homework and it’s high time for and attitude-makeover:

1. You think that the perfect partner will insure your happiness and make up for all of the shortcomings in your life; you will only have to find them. As long as you haven’t, you will give hell and punish all the “imperfect” partners for being the “wrong” one, while living in a constant state of pity-party.

Well, stop it! Treat the people around you with respect and love yourself!

2. You will start to act like the fabulous person that you are, once the world gives you the recognition that you deserve. (“Don’t these people know who I am?”)

Are you waiting for fame, fortune or that perfect job and a big life? It’s a trap!

Roll up your sleeves and show the world what you are made of today!

3. If you had the perfect, bigger house, your place wouldn’t be so messy.

REALLY? Honor the roof over you head and turn it into a temple. Remember the lifetime where you didn’t have a place to call your own?

4. a) You would be happy if you had a child.

 b) You’d be happy if you had more time and a nanny. Children are a lot of work.

c) You would be happy if the child was more according to your expectations.

d) You would be happy if the child had married the “right” person and provided the “perfect” grand children.

It might be time to give your children, born and unborn, a break and work on being a happy mommy or daddy!

5. Life would be so much better if you only could become a member of that exclusive club and hang out with famous people.

You might want to check into your neediness and lack of self-esteem. A lot of people have an allergic reaction to those frequencies and the life you desire actually keeps moving further away from you.

6. You think the world would be a much better place if “those people” got their act together and fixed things properly.

The truth is: planet earth is a multi-dimensional school with many different classrooms. The best we can do is to live our highest potential in the life we have.

7. You would write that book, go to the gym, paint, spend more time with your friends, if you only had more time!

Many of us live our lives filled with excuses! My question to you is: How many hours a week do you watch TV? How much time do you spend on Facebook?  How many hours a week do you fill with things that you don’t need to do but that you’ve made part of your routine? We usually have areas in life that we can adjust to do the things we really want to do. Be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your time management.

8. You experience road rage and take out your bad mood and dissatisfaction on service personnel, i.e. your hairdresser, your mechanic, you nanny, your in-laws, your friends and whoever else gets in your way!

Consider anger management and remind yourself! If the whole world seems at fault, you are the problem! Sorry! (You can thank me later! Whenever you are done being upset with me!)

9. You wish you had been born at a different time, into better family circumstances and/or a different country/culture.

Embrace your circumstances! They are perfect for what you have to learn and remember this too shall pass! You don’t want to get yourself stuck in this classroom for the next few lifetimes by rejecting it, do you?

10. You feel that earth is beneath you and that you should be floating in some divine dimension or zooming around the Universe in your golden, fabulous UFO.

If you are “stuck” here, there is a reason and the sooner you surrender and become a good sport the sooner you’ll get to go home.

Become An Expert In Untangling Energetic Knots

Many times, we get stuck on the surface layers of an issue. The details of a situation can push anyone who is an obsessive problem solver over the edge.

You might find yourself running through a conversation a million times and wonder:

I don’t understand why she yelled at me! All I said was, I will pick up the ice cream.

Why would anyone do that? They never even called to apologize.

I did say, I was sorry for forgetting their birthday, I wouldn’t hold a grudge if I was in their shoes.

A lot of situations that don’t make sense on the surface are more complex than meet the eye.

If you or someone in your life seems to have overacted and you have spent a fair amount of time unsuccessfully trying to figure it out, it is safe to say that you are dealing with a multi-faceted issue.

Here is a visual:

Picture a tight knot created out of five different colored strings. In order to untangle it you have to follow the pathway of each string and pull them away from each other in a matter that allows more space in between them. That is the only way to ultimately effectively separate them.

How does that work in practical application?

When you are faced with yourself, a person or a situation in your life that doesn’t make sense, stop reacting! Give it some breathing room and meditate on it. Journal about it, discuss it with someone that you know has the capacity to be neutral and who tends to be a good investigator.

Here are some helpful investigative questions:

1. Are you or the other person under more stress than usual? (Divorce, death, change of job, financial troubles, etc.)

2. Are there any health issues to be taken into consideration?  (Low blood sugar, chronic pain, hormonal issues, etc. are just a few examples that might add extra tension to a situation)

3. Is there a prior conflict between the two of you that wasn’t resolved? (Long standing unaddressed issues, will explode sooner or later)

4. Have you and/or the other person changed a lot and the rules of engagement need to be revisited? (I.e. you have happily played the doormat and assistant in other people’s lives for many years. They have gotten used to you playing that part and won’t even question it. Your health issues have forced you to take better care of yourself therefore; you are no longer available for the usual suspects. You set firmer boundaries, they get mad, and you wonder what happened? All you said was that you couldn’t go out with them on Saturday night. If you don’t examine what happened you might see yourself slipping back into an old behavior pattern.)

5. If the same topic can provoke you to a boiling point over and over again, you might be dealing with an unresolved past life issue. (I.e. if your current partner can’t get it right, no matter how much effort they put into the relationship and you feel abandoned as soon as they have to put their attention somewhere else, there is a high possibility that you are dealing with a past trauma that can’t be resolved through the here and now. If this is a the case, I suggest past life therapy, energy clearings and the appropriate set of flower essences to support the internal healing of the issue at hand.)

6. Be open to any other questions or insights that come to mind when you re investigating the energetic knot at hand.

Life is complex and it takes willingness and creativity to get to the bottom of things.

Have some patience and invest the time in determining what it is you are really dealing with.

The good news is that every knot can get untangled and you might just find yourself capable of turning into an expert!

Don’t Despair! All Roads Lead Home, Eventually!

One sentiment that a lot of souls share as they wake up to their soul reality is a longing for HOME! It is the awareness that earth isn’t home and an aching in the heart that reminds us of where we came from. That desire can be so strong that many of us disassociate from our physical bodies and live primarily in our upper chakras during these periods.

 At times, we find ourselves judging earth reality more harshly than usual and there is a sense of impatience for this part of the journey to be completed.

It’s painful! You are homesick! I get it! I have lived in this place for many years myself.

Now, the good news is that we are all on our way home. No matter how long the journey is, how many twists and turns there are in the road or how often you want to give up because you just felt too exhausted to continue. You are still continually getting closer to that place where you will be reunited with your loved ones in a dimension that suits your soul perfectly. When exactly, I don’t know but eventually it will happen. The question is: how can you be a good sport until you get there?

I spent most of my teens and early twenties longingly gazing up at the stars with a deep knowing in my heart that home was somewhere out there. Even though, I was never suicidal, I wasn’t completely committed to life on planet earth either. I wasn’t respecting my physical body or space that well and experienced any aspects of earthly manifested reality as rather superficial.

Well, here is what happened that made me rethink my point of view and taught me a valuable lesson in “be careful what you wish for”.

It was during my first year in college, a friend of mine and I decided to spend a long weekend in January in New York City. We drove from Ohio in her car and had a great time talking, smoking, stopping for endless cups of coffee and felt like we owned the world. Other than the freezing cold, we had a fun weekend.

On the way back we were pretty tired and decided to spend the night in a motel.

When we woke up the next morning, it had snowed. The car wasn’t equipped for snow but my friend was in a hurry to make it home where her little son was waiting for her. We decided that even if it took many extra hours we would make our way back.  We crawled along the Interstate at about 15-25 miles an hour. It was still snowing and there were few other travelers on the road. Ten hours went by. We stopped for gas a couple of times and continued on our journey. It was now dark when we pulled back onto the freeway. All of a sudden, I was filled with a sense of unease.

As we drove, two street lamps went out right as we passed underneath them.

My first thought, we are going to die on this freeway tonight! (Now, for anyone who knows me, I am not the paranoid type at all. So, this thought was rather unusual to enter my mind.)

I saw my life flash before my eyes and I realized that I had evoked this moment through my strong desire to go HOME!

My friends, my family and all the things that I love about planet earth rushed to the forefront of my consciousness.

And with a jolt, I realized that I wasn’t done living my life. I started to pray with every fiber of my being to be spared on that snowy, January night somewhere in the middle of nowhere between Ohio and New York. Ten minutes later, a street lamp on the other side of the road turned on as we drove by. It was a brighter lamp than the two that went out. I continued to pray and thought to myself,  “something is going to happen but we will live.”

Ten minutes later, my friend who was driving screamed:

“Sh**, oh no!”

“What?” I asked

She doesn’t answer, but has her eyes are filled with horror fixed on the review mirror.

I turned around just in time to see two gigantic lights rushing towards us at high speed.

Next thing I know we are hit hard from behind. The back of the car caves in, we are spinning at high speed into the opposite lane. The semi-truck that hit us keeps going. We slam into the center divider. The impact on the slippery surface keeps us spinning until we finally come to a stop on the shoulder, mere inches away from a steep cliff.

We were both shaking, but miraculously okay. The car was totaled front back and sides were demolished. We couldn’t open the doors and had to wait for the rescue team to cut us out.

I repeated silent prayers of gratitude as I fully committed to life.

We suffered only from shock and severe whiplash.

I got back to campus and started to clean up my act immediately. I quit smoking, I started working out and I stopped whining. I took full responsibility for my life and have made the best out of every possible moment since.

It was humbling to have to be reminded, in such a drastic way, about how poorly I had been conducting myself.

I have to say that that  was one of the most profound experiences for me this time around.

So, if you feel homesick take a moment and look around you. Who and what would you miss if you were to leave today? What would you regret not doing at least one last time? There are many souls that you have come to love during your stay on planet earth that don’t call the same place home that you do? Enjoy them while you are here. There are so many things that are unique to this location that you owe it to yourself to pause and take inventory?

After doing that, are you really that much in a rush to depart for good?

Remember, HOME is ultimately where the heart is and our hearts are big and have the capacity to expand. The place you are longing for is your destination ultimately but maybe not today.

(And remember, there is this place in your heart where you can visit with HOME whenever you want. Go there in your meditation. It works like an Intergalactic version of SKYPE.)