How often do you look at fellow
humans and feel sorry for them?
In a world filled with suffering,
it is easy to pity the ones less fortunate.
"Poor fellow, his wife is
sick."
"I feel so bad for them,
they lost their home/job/partner/investment."
And how easily do you feel
empathy and suffer with someone?
"I always experience other
people's pain, if someone next to me has a headache I will get one too."
"I have been so depressed,
because my sister is going through a divorce."
"The weight of the whole
world rests on my shoulders, I don't see how anybody can have a good
time."
These are just a few examples of
how we might react to events around us from a place of empathy and pity.
At first glance this appears to
be a good-hearted and kind way of responding to other's pain and challenges.
If you look more closely there
are a number of reasons why you might wish to reconsider:
1. Souls are here to learn (read
post: "Becoming a student of life.") Some of the lessons are painful
and a lot of people will feel insulted if you pity them, because you are
transmitting the message that you don't think they are strong enough to endure
or to overcome their challenges. The bottom line is that they chose their
challenges.
Can you respect that? By turning
pity into compassion you can choose not to suffer with them, or look at them as
a victim of circumstances. Instead you might say:
"I can see that the lesson
you are experiencing is painful, you have my compassion, I'll pray for you, I
will help if I can and if I am meant to. And I believe that you will be
OK."
2. By continuously suffering with
the world you are missing out on your own journey.
This is a multi facetted reality
where many realities are lived out simultaneously.
If you go back to the school
example, they represent nothing more or less than different classrooms. None of
the classes are wrong or bad, since everyone in the big picture will graduate.
So if you deny yourself love, happiness and/or abundance because you feel guilty
to enjoy yourself while others are having a harder time you overlook the fact
that:
a) They won't suffer less because
you are hurting too, au contraire, they might feel guilty that their situation
brought you down. Consider holding the frequency (Read post: Learn to hold the
frequency!)
b) You miss out on living your
truthful karma, there is a high possibility that you'll end up feeling like you
missed out on your own life and possibly grow resentful of people in your
environment that had a difficult time.
Compassion is a way to be
sensitive and to understand our fellow travelers pain without allowing it to color
our own experience of life. Our heart can stay open and loving while setting
energetic boundaries and knowing that certain situations are not our responsibility;
not because we don't care, but because they are beyond our jurisdiction.
So do yourself and others a favor
and turn your pity into compassion.
If you have an issue with pity
and empathy there might also be a chance of you being a psychic sponge. I
suggest you read the post dedicated to the topic, if you haven't already.
