Guilt is a tricky emotion. In my work I have found it to be
possibly the most difficult one to deal with, especially in the context of
clearing past-lives.
Why?
Well, there are a number of reasons. But let’s first,
explore the positive side of guilt.
We are here to learn. In order to learn and to make well-
informed choices, we need feedback from our environment. If I go out of my way
to harm someone with my behavior, I ultimately want to be affected by
witnessing the consequences and that often time happens through a healthy dose
of guilt. In that sense, guilt is a great teacher. Best-case scenario, I
offend, feel guilty, make amends, learn my lesson and change my behavior for
all future occurrences. As soon as
I get the lesson, the guilt vanishes because there is really no reason to hang
onto it. Its job is done!
As we all know though, there are circumstances, even in this
lifetime, where it proves a little harder to forgive yourself. At times, we
file certain situations as unforgivable and we feel like the damage that was
done is beyond repair and even though, we have learned our lesson and wouldn’t
repeat the mistake, we hang on to the guilt indefinitely. In the beginning, it’s
a sore spot, but the more chronic it becomes, the more it fades into the background
because its color permeates the whole landscape of your life. Next thing you
know, things are not working out for you quite as smoothly. You are up for a
sports scholarship but injure your knee. The love of your life leaves you, or
maybe you just can’t get pregnant. In your mind, you wouldn’t necessarily put
the two situations side by side because you don’t realize the influence your
co-creative power has via your guilt channel.
Some guilt is even sneakier; it is the guilt of the
survivor, the winner or the favorite sibling. You might feel bad that your
popularity or good fortune is hurting someone else and start blocking your own
good karma in order to minimize the impact.
I have found that nicer, more conscientious souls/people
tend to more readily suffer from this condition.
Add some past-life guilt to that for the time you got
pregnant out of wedlock (which you believed was going to transport you straight
to hell) or fall in love with your brother’s wife and you have created the
perfect storm. And that doesn’t even remotely start to touch the surface of the
guilt for the lives where people were killed or huge crimes were committed by
your will or your own hands.
As an old soul, I can guarantee you that you have participated
in events and have experienced situations that you are not proud of. If you haven’t reached enlightenment yet
and there are areas in your life that you haven’t been able to heal despite all
of your efforts, there is a good chance that you are suffering from chronic
guilt.
Chronic soul guilt can be invisible. You might not even feel
a twinge in your emotional body. Whereas fear and sadness from past-lives make
it to the surface much quicker because we feel that we deserve to heal from them,
the guilt that is labeled unforgivable is not making itself known because you
don’t feel like you deserve to be set free from it. That’s when it turns into a
vicious circle. It will block every coach, every remedy, every doctor and every
spiritual practice you seek out for help, until you clear it!
(Also, read post “Learn To detect Undercurrents”)
My suggestion for anyone pursuing the path of self-healing
and soul-evolution, work on clearing guilt and forgive yourself even if you
believe there is nothing to clear.
How do you do that?
Here are a few tips:
1. Reframe your perception. We are all here to learn and
therefore, are students of life.
We switch up the roles of victim and violator in order to
evolve. Certain frequencies can only be learned in this force field of shadows
and light. I.e. forgiveness can only be experienced if something went “wrong”.
Who needs unconditionality if the conditions are light on light and love on love
where everything is perfect?
So, in the big picture, it is always about learning and
accepting the classrooms that we have been part of.
2. In prayer and meditation, send out apology emails to all
the souls you have ever hurt and pray for their healing as well as forgive all
the souls that have ever hurt you.
3. Get some flower essences for forgiveness.
4. Practice self-forgiveness meditation. One way you can
practice that is to sit in front of a mirror and look directly into your eyes
(this is also called soul gazing).
It helps to do this with soft light and to place a candle in
front of you. Then repeat either out loud or telepathically: “I forgive you.
You deserve forgiveness. I accept you and love you in every aspect of your
being.” (Feel free to change the wording a bit to tailor it to your situation)
Practice for forty days, every day. If you miss a day, start
by counting at day one again.
5. Seek out a professional to assist you, especially if you
have memories of a situation that you don’t know how to reframe, or someone who
is capable of filling in the blanks and help to release trapped energy.
6. Check for spots where your ego gets stuck. Most long-term
guilt trips have a strong ego component to them. We feel that we should have
done/known better and we stubbornly ignore our lesson and responsibility within
the karmic set-up.
As always, add your own tools to the list of suggestions and
remember, when you feel stuck and things are not moving, do consider chronic
soul-guilt as the potential reason for your struggles!
