Stop Being A Psychic Sponge!

I am one of these people who thrive in harmonious, calm, peaceful environments.

Tension, conflict, tantrums and noise are extremely uncomfortable for me.

One of my past behavior patterns was to energetically absorb the 'negative' energies around me, in hope to harmonize the space. (That of course doesn't always work, but hey, you can't blame someone for trying, right?)

This post is dedicated to all the psychic sponges out there.

The two questions I would like to address are the following:

1.How do you recognize if you are one?           

2.If you are one, how do you stop? (If you are ready to do so!)

First of all, here is a list of some of the symptoms and character dispositions you might have/experience if you are a psychic sponge:

a) You personally feel responsible for everyone's mood and circumstances.

b) Your muscles tense up when there is tension in the air.

c) You stop breathing regularly when you are around conflict.

d) Your anxiety meter goes through the roof if one of your loved ones is out of sorts.

e) You drop whatever you were doing to remedy a situation.

f) You arrive somewhere feeling happy and light, conflict erupts  (even if it has nothing to do with you), and within minutes you feel heavy, dense and immersed in the situation.

g) You are more concerned about other people's wellbeing than your own. (" I am only relaxed and happy, if everyone else around me is.")

h) You feel guilty, if you can't fix it.

i) Long term physical and emotional effects of psychic sponging can include:

-Weight gain, indigestion and stomach problems, migraine headaches, chronic fatigue, depression and anxiety

j) You rather suffer yourself than witness other's suffering.

k) You are only relaxed by yourself, or in extremely shielded environments

 These are some possible symptoms and if indeed you are a psychic sponge, I am sure, you won't have a hard time adding some additional items to the list.

So the question is how do you stop?

Here are some pointers:

a) Learn to protect yourself, so that the energies in your environment don't have such an impact on you. There are a number of ways how to go about doing this; ask your angels and Divine Source/God to surround you with a bubble of white light, in order to deflect any negative energy. Practice chakra meditation so you strengthen your vertical vs. horizontal alignment in order to be less affected by the karmic/energetic impact of other souls on your reality.

b) Allow other souls to learn their own lessons, they have a right to be upset and to indulge in drama, you have the choice not to engage and in certain cases not to be around them. You absorbing the negative energies won't make them learn their lessons quicker, it is more like taking homework away from a first grader. They actually might feel resentful towards you because you took away the opportunity to get the lesson. Any lesson that is meant to be will be recreated which means you only delayed the process for them.

c) Ask yourself, what do I need to support myself in this situation?

A popular example is to learn to put the oxygen mask in the plane on yourself first, before you help the people around you.

One of the constant reminders for me is that other people's choices don't fall under my jurisdiction, it is my responsibility to take care of myself and sometimes that means walking away.

It has taken me a number of years to quit psychic 'spongedom', so please have patience with yourself in the process.

And of course quitting doesn't mean you won't assist other people anymore. You will actually be able to help them without hurting yourself and in a much more productive way, because you'll have more clarity as to when to help and when to step back.

My life has certainly been more relaxed since I have learned not to absorb all the energetic toxicity.

By the way, I still don't like conflict and drama, but at least now I am not as easily affected by it.

Life Purpose- An Expanded View

We all at times have questions in regards to our life purpose. What am I meant to do this life? What is my divine mission? Where do I belong? How do I give my life meaning? What is the task that will bring my soul fulfillment?

This has been one of the repeat topics in many sessions. One of the things I have observed is that many people associate life purpose with a specific professional calling. There is an expectation that once the divine professional purpose has been found; fame and fortune are sure to follow. Souls that don't have a specific vocational calling often find themselves tormented by a sense of being left out. I do believe this point of view is a product of social condition and the industrialized, capitalist society we live in.

If we look at the question of life purpose from the soul perspective we get an expanded view.

First of all most souls in most lifetimes have multi purposes.

Some of them have to do with developing internal states of being like compassion, trust, faith, patience etc. Depending on what you signed up for, life will create an abundant amount of situations to give you the opportunity to practice your subject(s) of choice.

Others will have to do with clearing/resolving karmic issues, which could lead to you marrying your worst enemy (in that moment, resolving this dysfunctional relationship would be a big part of your life purpose).

So, the romantic notion of one's life purpose being fun and fulfilling won't always be the case, the opposite might be true, the most annoying aspect of your life might be exactly what you are meant to focus on.

Professions can be an aspect of the purpose of course, but some of them aren't very glamorous. You might be called to play support staff in some project, because your soul chose to put the ego on a diet, while still helping out.

So if you fall into the large category of people who haven't had a calling to become the next Mozart, or a doctor from the tender age of three, do not despair! Your life purpose(s) will find you whether you like it or not! Look out for the themes that keep coming back and remember your enlightenment practice has more dimensions to it than the ego could ever comprehend. Show up with as much good humor as you can, work with what you have and what presents itself and live your life step by step.

As long as you are willing to pay attention and to follow the impulses, no matter how insignificant they might seem; you will stay on track. And don't forget to have some fun!

The Trojan Truth-When Loved Ones Get Hijacked

Most of you are aware, that things aren't always what they appear to be. Ideally, the soul of the person we are dealing with is properly aligned within the body and you are able to have a straightforward exchange. Unfortunately, that scenario isn't always the case and our loved ones can become Trojan horses in our lives. What does that mean?

That means that the body is used by an entity other than the soul in question (think possession) and their words and actions can be tainted. In the worst case, you might find yourself brutally attacked in an unsuspecting moment. When you look into the eyes as the windows to the soul, you will often times be aware that the expression is very different from what you are used to, when the regular soul is present. At times, it might almost go as far as in the horror movies, where the eyes turn red.

People on drugs and alcohol can easily be hijacked by entities as well as people that have experienced soul disassociation due to shock, trauma, or prolonged illness. (Soul disassociation means part of the soul leaves or disconnects from the body due to excruciating pain)

The person will be acting out of character and feel profusely guilty when they return for what was said or done through their bodies.

When you are on the receiving end of such a Trojan attack it is hard not to be vulnerable and take it personally. Your friend accuses you of being lazy and disloyal, your partner calls you ugly or your mother says that she never loved you at all.

If you give power to words you know not to be true, you allow the dark forces to win.

They have injured you and your relationship, and they make the world an unsafe place, because most people in our lives, including us, might at some point get temporally taken over by an entity.

The first practical step to take is to recognize when it is happening and to see if you can find the internal observer place within yourself and stay neutral. Remember, you are not talking to your loved one in that moment, but rather a force that doesn't mean you well.

If you notice a person gets hijacked often, see if you can determine the cause, if it is due to drugs or alcohol, an intervention might be necessary. At times, entities lodge themselves in for the long run and an exorcism might be necessary.

It is always good to work on energetic protections for self and others. Prayer, meditation and visualization can go a long way.

Also, be aware that darker forces thrive on fear, so don't freak out. Stay calm and send them love.

Keep alert, know when you are dealing with a Trojan situation and remember this is just one of many things we in counter in this school called life.

What Does It Take For You To Pay Attention?

Planet Earth as a school is in some ways like an interactive computer game. If through your actions you are in violation of your karmic contract or on the wrong path, you will get the appropriate negative feedback. These reminders can come in all different shapes and sizes. Sometimes, they come in the form of a friend expressing concern, a bone-chilling nightmare or a little thought that slowly grows into an obsession, continuously tickling your brain. At other times, you will have a gut feeling that you should change your current course or it will lead to disaster. The question is; what does it take for you to listen?

When we don't listen to the gentler nudges, we do provoke the noisier, less pleasant wake-up calls in the form of illness, accidents or big losses in our lives. Some of us have to hit rock bottom in order to change our ways.

I used to be very stubborn and not yield easily, once I had decided on a specific trajectory.

Thirteen years ago, I got myself into some serious trouble and ended up in bed with viral pneumonia for six months. It took me another three years to fully recover my health.

In retrospect, I had to face how many warning signs I had chosen to ignore.

In my stubbornness, I held on to a relationship that I knew wasn't healthy for me. I overstayed for at least four years. During that same time I was going to school, I worked too much, played in a band and allowed my ambitions to run the show, I chose to ignore my physical limitations and any sign of exhaustion.

Well Ego, time to swallow some dust!

These days, I listen to the quiet wake-up calls and am a lot swifter at adjusting my course when necessary.

Discipline and stubbornness can be great allies in reaching certain goals, but be honest with your self, when they are nothing more than glorified ego messenger and executers.

Internally we have a choice to pay attention or to plow ahead.

I have learned that pacing your self oftentimes is the wiser choice when it comes to long-term strategies.

Pay attention and learn to cooperate with the greater flow of the Universe and you might be in for a less bumpy ride.