How Do You Know What Your Soul Really Wants?

This is a very good question and this post will be an encore to the previous one "Explore your soul brand". (Inspired by the reader comment)

The soul and its journey is the driving force behind your life. At times its choices won't be according to ego or social expectations.

Here are some ways you can tune into your soul (beware, every soul is different, so this by no means represents a complete list):

1. Watch out for the dreams and desires that keep coming back, no matter how often you dismiss them. When you encounter a deep-seated longing/desire, don't go into excuse mode ("This won't work because…!). Instead, play with it. How does it feel if you give yourself permission to entertain the idea? Remember, it's safe to play.  You can always dismiss it later if it doesn't feel like a fit, or you might start looking for practical steps to turn that dream into a reality.

2. When we tap into the soul frequency, our heart opens and we feel excited about our life.  We experience a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

The ego or social direction you take might feel more like duty or responsibility driven and for many souls this will appear plain boring.

3. One of the exercises I like to use is to envision myself in different situations. I become an outside observer and look at self with certain people or at a particular location: I take note of the expression on my face, do I look happy/fulfilled/soulful, or does my demeanor reflect sadness/dissatisfaction/boredom? The answers are already within you; it is mostly a matter of allowing them to surface.

4. Jealousy can give you a good idea about your soul desires. You might respond negatively to someone else who lives the life or an aspect of life you desire for yourself.

When buttons get pushed, don't take it out on the person who pushed them. Instead, look closer to determine which aspects you want for yourself and than start to strategize how you can get there.

5. Allow yourself to be surprised. Sometimes we find ourselves in circumstances with people we didn't expect to enjoy, because they weren't on our ego trajectory. When you find that unexpected bliss, expand your view of self and explore further.

By the same token, you might end up miserable, in a place or situation that you thought was right up your ally. In that case, your ego might have steered you astray. It might be time to right your course.

6a.Take note, of the things that resonate with you! It could be something you read in a book, a comment a person makes, a line from a movie etc. These are clues that will reveal further details if you follow them.

b. Last but not least, look at life as a treasure hunt. The soul will always leave clues, as I said before, these clues won't necessarily satisfy ego expectations, but if you follow them you will align yourself with your soul compass.

Life Purpose- An Expanded View

We all at times have questions in regards to our life purpose. What am I meant to do this life? What is my divine mission? Where do I belong? How do I give my life meaning? What is the task that will bring my soul fulfillment?

This has been one of the repeat topics in many sessions. One of the things I have observed is that many people associate life purpose with a specific professional calling. There is an expectation that once the divine professional purpose has been found; fame and fortune are sure to follow. Souls that don't have a specific vocational calling often find themselves tormented by a sense of being left out. I do believe this point of view is a product of social condition and the industrialized, capitalist society we live in.

If we look at the question of life purpose from the soul perspective we get an expanded view.

First of all most souls in most lifetimes have multi purposes.

Some of them have to do with developing internal states of being like compassion, trust, faith, patience etc. Depending on what you signed up for, life will create an abundant amount of situations to give you the opportunity to practice your subject(s) of choice.

Others will have to do with clearing/resolving karmic issues, which could lead to you marrying your worst enemy (in that moment, resolving this dysfunctional relationship would be a big part of your life purpose).

So, the romantic notion of one's life purpose being fun and fulfilling won't always be the case, the opposite might be true, the most annoying aspect of your life might be exactly what you are meant to focus on.

Professions can be an aspect of the purpose of course, but some of them aren't very glamorous. You might be called to play support staff in some project, because your soul chose to put the ego on a diet, while still helping out.

So if you fall into the large category of people who haven't had a calling to become the next Mozart, or a doctor from the tender age of three, do not despair! Your life purpose(s) will find you whether you like it or not! Look out for the themes that keep coming back and remember your enlightenment practice has more dimensions to it than the ego could ever comprehend. Show up with as much good humor as you can, work with what you have and what presents itself and live your life step by step.

As long as you are willing to pay attention and to follow the impulses, no matter how insignificant they might seem; you will stay on track. And don't forget to have some fun!

The Secret About The Ability To Manifest

 

I have had a lot of people come to sessions feeling defeated and like total failures, because their manifestation exercises and attempts remained fruitless, barely daring to ask the question, "why didn’t it work for me, but it did for my friend?"

Here is a little reminder for everyone:

There are no two Karmic contracts alike and all contracts have very specific clauses regarding lessons that the soul chooses to learn within each lifetime. Obviously the lessons the soul selects are often times not what the ego wishes to manifest. If the soul's and the ego's desires are not matched up, the contract the soul has in place will override all ego attempts. Keep that in mind when working on manifestations in your life.

(Also read the posts 'What is your motivation?' and 'Discernment-every contract is different')

Here are a few concrete examples:

1. A person looks to manifest a family and children and yet finds him/herself chronically single. If we look at the soul contract we might find:

A) A clause that states that no family shall be manifested in the present life in order to work on independence, flexibility and self-love.

B) To find a sense of family beyond the borders of a tribe.

C) To pay off a karmic debt for not appreciating a family in the past.

 These are just a few possible scenarios.

2. Somebody who wishes to manifest greater financial abundance but who finds barely enough to get by and struggles despite great efforts.

Here are some possible reasons why a soul might choose this lesson:

A) It has decided to break a pattern of over identification with material goods,

B) There might be an active vow of poverty in place from a former life as a monk.

C) The person might be paying a karmic debt for having cheated somebody in business affairs.

 These are obviously only a few possible reasons, but the ones given are to shed some light on the subject.

      3.Another popular goal is for people to lose weight. Some reasons they might not have let go of it yet are: 
  

      A) The weight is carried for protection and the soul hasn’t figured out a different way to feel safe yet
        (i.e. response to sexual or physical abuse)

     B) The soul might have starved in a past-life and that trauma causes a continuous sense of hunger. 
       On the surface it looks like a lack of restraint, because the trauma is needing to get healed first.

     C) Somebody who absorbs too much negative energy from the environment might hold it in form of access weight. The weight will be kept in place until the energie is released and he/she learns to keep better boundaries.

As you can see, all these examples are reasons why the soul would forfeit the instant gratification of certain manifestations. Remember you are here to learn and evolve. My suggestion is, if you find yourself stuck in a certain area of your life despite great efforts, meditate on what your soul contract/lessons are.

In my experience it becomes easier to change the situation at hand, or to live with what is with more peace, if one has the understanding of why it got stuck in the first place.

This is certainly a big topic, but I do hope that this post was able to shed some light on it.