Develop The Courage To Choose Love Over Fear!

Most of us carry a fair amount of unresolved trauma in regards to love relationships.

The way we have loved in the past has left us heartbroken when the person of our affection died or abandoned us.  

Why?

Because we tend to give parts of our heart away and we attach our future expectations, our happiness, our fulfillment and our completeness to the loved one. We give up our vertical alignment that keeps us firmly rooted in Divine source and replace it with a horizontal alignment firmly rooted in our love relationship. When the space between you and the other person gets altered, it is natural that we not only lose our balance, but also part of ourselves. These kinds of break-ups are so painful that it leaves the system in a state of shock and trauma. If the wound isn’t properly treated, it doesn’t fully heal. Imagine a broken bone that wasn’t properly set into place when it grew back together, it can deprive you of regaining the full range of motion of your arm or leg. Now add a few centuries of losses and break-ups to the mix; the heart becomes more and more distorted, closed down and our natural response is a fear of love and closeness.

We develop all kinds of coping mechanisms that make us leave people before they have a chance to leave us. We avoid souls that we fear could play a major part in our lives. We sabotage relationships, push people away and create drama, especially in the early stages of a new relationship, just to avoid another train wreck.

This kind of behavior is understandable, of course, but may I point out, you are choosing fear over love. It’s a free-will Universe, so you can continue to choose from that place of fear and trauma as long as you like. Or, you can choose to start the healing process for your heart and find the courage to choose love again.

Here are a few pointers:

1. Instead of giving parts of yourself away when you love, imagine your heart as a vessel that love flows through. As it flows through you, you get replenished. The divine realms freely give love to you and it’s your job to learn how to freely love others. (Also read post “How do you Love?”)

2. Heal your past trauma! How? There are many different avenues. Remind yourself that every relationship experience is a classroom designed to bring you a step closer towards enlightenment and an ability to stand on your own with proper vertical alignment. Figure out your soul’s lessons within traumatic experiences.

It’s harder to heal when we hold onto the notion that love isn’t safe.

3. All the souls you have ever loved and those who have loved you are never truly lost to you. Allow yourself to connect to them via meditation.  Use your heart chakra as a starting place. Sit quietly and ask your spiritual guides and Divine Source to allow you to feel/be shown all the soul connections that are still alive.

4. Get your soul pieces back! The heart as vessel needs to be complete in order to function properly. If too many pieces are missing, we tend to be more needy and flowing energy and love through our heart will have a spaghetti strainer effect. Sometimes we miss the parts of ourselves lost more than we actually miss the person or the relationship. Check out the post “Clearing Manual” to learn how to ask for soul pieces back.

5. Learn to distinguish between true love and obsessive emotions. A lot of times, I find that people call all kinds of strong emotions love.  Really check if you love the person or if you are looking to control and own them. If you truly love, you will have their best interest at heart, which means you will be able to love them with an open palm policy. Allow people around you to be free. If you are meant to be and stay in a relationship with them, it will happen.

6. Remember: Every production on planet earth will ultimately be a wrap! Even if you meet the right person and share 50 great years together, one of you will most likely die first. Making peace with loss, which is a part of life, allows us to choose love over fear! You don’t want to shut out one of your favorite souls just because they died on you in a past life, do you?

7. A new love will defrost parts of the heart that haven’t been healed or lived in for a while. That’s what makes powerful, new relationships scary and often prompts us to withdraw. Sooner or later these parts will have to be healed. Don’t blame the soul you love because they play the part of  the catalyst for the defrost you are going through and the discomfort that you’re feeling. Instead put things in perspective, look at this situation as an opportunity and remind yourself that they’re just old wounds ready to be healed that spike your fear and discomfort. In case of doubt, get yourself professional help before you sabotage another relationship!

One thing I know is that ultimately we all live to love and be loved. The sooner you find the courage to heal and to choose love over fear, the more fulfilling the journey will be!

Embrace The Mystery, ‘Cause Soul Evolution Isn’t A Linear Process!

How do you view life? Do you think it is a logical process? Do you believe in paradigms that promise you “a+b=c”? Do you hold on to the notion that once you reach the top of the pyramid (pun intended for those of you with a background in Ancient Egypt!) you will get to remain there?

If you answered yes, to any of the above, my question to you is:

“How is that working for you? So, you have been recognized again as the chosen one? Oh, did they return your castle? Well, good for you, if indeed that happened!”

For the rest of us mortals, we have to make peace with the fact that the karmic wheel just keeps going ‘round and ‘round.

For me, this realization came as quite the rude awakening. My calculations weren’t working and my expectations were continuously disappointed. Eventually, it took a while, since I am rather stubborn in nature, I surrendered and humbly made space for the mysteries in life.

In the process, I learned and accepted the fact that the divine plan is a lot more multi-dimensional than our egos would like to believe.

Let me give you a couple of examples:

Imagine a spiritual leader who is meditating twelve hours a day and who treats his followers very well, what do you think his next life would look like?

Maybe, it would be another one of spiritual focus or he might live as a starving actor in New York, or be a baker in a small town in France or a goat farmer in Greece or perhaps a University professor in Moscow. In fact, he may have very high amnesia and not seem very spiritual at all. Now, why would that be?

Perhaps this soul lost touch with the people and felt superior, therefore he is choosing a life that is more rooted in humility and to remember what it feels like to make ends meet. Or, he might be tested on how well he can hold his balance if he doesn’t have the support of a spiritual organization which provides a lot of peace and quiet. So, theoretically any kind of life can flow into a series of new forms, which one wouldn’t expect if you were looking to find a linear process.

Do you expect to find the perfect love under specific conditions?

I.e. You think your karma is good enough, you are attractive, you bring perks to the relationship, you love yourself, you have done your affirmations, you have made space for it and so on and so forth.

Now, look at the world around you. Have you ever seen anyone who doesn’t fit these criteria who has a lot of love in their life? And on the flip side, have you ever seen anyone who fits the profile perfectly and more and who is alone?

Why would that be if life were a logical linear process?

So, let’s apply ourselves as well as we can to the lessons and the experience at hand and then let go and surrender to the mysteries of life.

Here Is Some Interesting Info On What The Heavens Is Going On!

The energetics on planet earth have been a bit intense lately. If you or your loved ones have been more stressed than usual, it may be helpful to understand our current astrological weather patterns.

Just wanted to share a cool link:
http://www.mysticmamma.com/uranus-square-pluto-may-20th-2013-awakening/

In case of doubt:
1. Stay calm!
2. Breathe!
3. Take some Bach Flower Rescue Remedy

More original posts coming in a couple of days!

Is Your Self-Esteem In The Dump? 10 Tips To Turn On Your Soul-Sparklers!

There are days for all of us when we feel dull and depressed. We find a million and one reasons for what’s wrong with us and it’s easy to be overcome by a bout of low self-esteem.

The other day, I had a session with a lovely, attractive lady short of her fortieth birthday. It was after a break-up from a relationship, which she had hoped, would lead to marital bliss. She felt like a failure and that her chances to attract a suitable mate were over. Her usually radiant self was very dulled down and I could see how her fears could turn into a vicious circle and a self-fulfilling prophecy.

It was obvious that she didn’t have control over changing her physical age or the timing of the break-up.  The thing she did have power over was her attitude and the ability to reconnect to her soul.

Spirits’ advice to her was:

Turn on your soul-sparklers!

Here are 10 tips how to turn on yours:

1. Listen to music that inspires your soul and dance in the comfort of your living room. Don’t hold back! Remember who you are beyond your current circumstances.

2. When is the last time you’ve had a chat with your soul? Meditate or write in a journal and figure out your next internal and external steps in life!

3. Let go of a grudge, or two or twenty! Negative emotions tend to block our soul light, if you are feeling a bit low it might be time to unburden yourself.

4. Consider a makeover! When you look in the mirror, do you see yourself reflected as a soul? If the answer is no, it may be time for a makeover. This can include everything from a new hair cut to a detox program, a new exercise regimen or a change in your wardrobe. Be creative here! Sometimes we just lose ourselves in the demands of life! It is time to reclaim you.

5. What is your soul craving? Make sure you make room for your own needs in your life! That will make you a better friend, parent, boss, employee and partner. Small steps are better than none.

6. Do you have a spiritual practice? If you do, is it still working for you? Some form of spiritual practice in our daily life is essential to make our soul sparkle!

7. Spend time with people that see you and that encourage you to be your best self!

8.Avoid people that bring you down and that project their own needs or negativity onto you.

9. Learn to have strong “Yes” and a strong “No”! Defining clearly what we want and don’t want in life helps us to create the life we want. And that will build a strong foundation to make our soul‘s sparkle!

10. Allow yourself to be the best version of yourself and stop fretting over everything that you are not! Your uniqueness is loveable and finding that authentic frequency fearlessly will polish your aura. You won’t fit everyone’s taste but your flavor will be perfect for right people.

And add on to these suggestions! There are an infinite amount of ways we can inspire our soul’s to shine and the more you shine the less you will feel a lack within yourself.